Nobody really wants to be there.
Okay, a few people want to be there:
- The bride, and sometimes the groom
- Friends of the couple who are either engaged or almost-engaged, who are basically just judging your decor and taking notes on the good stuff.
That's pretty much it. Everyone else? Well, they're basically just trying to get the weekend over with. I realize that now.
Now, before all you crazy brides leave angry "I hope you die" comments, I'm not saying the whole wedding thing is not worth it. It sort of is. It's just that it's so insignificant in the scheme of things!
The little crap you stressed over for a year or more? Most likely nobody noticed (except recent or soon-to-be brides). The day you've dreamed about since you were a little girl? Over in three hours.
Cynical? Maybe. Correct? Definitely.
In the process of your wedding planning, try not to piss off your friends (you're going to need them when your husband pisses you off), and try not to piss off your fiancee (or there won't be a wedding). Contrary to what the wussy grooms on "Bridezillas" indicate, most guys won't stick around for that kind of behavior.
Stop thinking about the ribbons you have to tie, the centerpieces you have to make, or the photographer that just cancelled on you, and (nicely) ask some good friends to help you. Don't do it all on your own or you will turn into a fire-breathing dragon, and nobody wants to marry that.
Because what you should be focused on is the marriage. The learning how to communicate with this person. The learning how to live with this person. The fact that you will be spending every day until the day that you die with this person. The fact that it is constant effort and you never ever ever get out of it. The realization that you will be the one holding the bucket when this person is puking.
And if that thought doesn't make you jump for joy? Then don't make everyone sit through your weekend. Because the marriage is really all that matters.