Monday, September 26, 2011

And now, heaven is a real place.

My friend Sarah Wildman's sister passed away on September 24, 2001.

My friend Sara Frankl passed away on September 24, 2011.

Ten years later.

Sarah W. always talks about how heaven seems so much more real when your sister is waiting for you there. (Sara F. said the same thing about her dad.)

And while I don't technically have a sister...



I think I kind of get that now.

Wednesday, September 21, 2011

To that guy

You know that guy I live with?

The one who's been cleaning my house? Because it's a disaster? Because I am just. so. tired?

And calling the plumber.

And paying the bills.

And running our business with no pressure to make me come help?

And completely supporting my needing to order dinner out every night last week because I didn't have the mental capacity to work a hot stove?

The one who never ever made me talk about The Terrible Thing when I didn't want to talk about it?

Not didn't. Don't. Don't want to talk about it.

(But still hugs me a little tighter anyway.)

The one who left me that really nice note about how much he appreciates all I do, even though, let's be honest, I have been completely useless lately?

You know the one.

To that guy...

Thank you.

Sunday, September 18, 2011

The Gitz I know

Let's just get this over with.

My friend Sara is dying.

It's not my favorite subject at the moment.

And people keep writing really beautiful posts about her. And make no mistake - they are right about her beauty. The fact that she couldn't leave her house but made the best of every situation, praised God for it, even. There is nobody like Sara. Never, ever doubt that.

And yes, she changed my life long ago. I call her Gitzbuckle because I consider her a member of my family. I took her with me everywhere, no matter how boring it was. And the thing is, she wasn't once jealous or sad that she didn't still get to experience those things herself. She was always delighted that she got to see it at all through my eyes.

That's who she is. She's the girl who prays for you even though you're the one who should be praying for her. I wasn't impressed by her attitude and her beauty because I read about it on her blog; I was impressed by her attitude and beauty because I saw her live it as we walked each other through some of our hardest days over the last three years.

I don't really want to talk about that, though. That's just ours.

But rest assured, she is exactly who she represents herself to be on her blog.

That's only a fraction of how I remember her, though. Most of the way I'll remember her looks like this:



...or this...



...or this...



...or this...



...or this...



...or this...



...and, what will for ever, ever, ever be my personal favorite - this, which is what happens if you call Gitz old.



(You can imagine what's under the heart, but it's covered because most people who read here have children looking over their shoulder, are easily offended, and/or have the power to fire me from my ministry job. And lest you think she would be mortified by my posting this now that she's dying, I threatened to post it immediately when she did it, and her response is "GO AHEAD! HERE! I'LL DO IT AGAIN FOR YOU!" and did it again. There are many reasons to love her.)

So, anyway, don't think for a second that she was ever angelically stoic at all times. Don't think that she was too sick to laugh. Don't think that she didn't have an amazing sense of humor. I don't know of any time I ever laughed harder than when I was talking on the phone, video chatting, emailing, tweeting, or texting with her.

She's the kind of friend who, when you send an e-mail to vent about the many, many people in your house, who are all over 50 years old, and therefore have the TV super-loud...

...but accidentally INCLUDE YOUR MOTHER-IN-LAW IN THE EMAIL, WHO IS SITTING ACROSS THE ROOM FROM YOU...

...will, after having "shouted" an expletive on your behalf and then done nice things to help smooth things over with your (VERY UNDERSTANDING) mother-in-law...



...laugh at you relentlessly and unapologetically with the rest of your friends.



The Gitz I know is snarky. In a loving way.

The Gitz I know will watch an entire movie with you on Skype, 800 miles away, making fun of you for how silly you look laying in bed.

The Gitz I know makes up nicknames for those she loves.

The Gitz I know loves food as much as I do. Even if she can't eat a lot of her favorite things because of her allergies.

The Gitz I know is super-creative and loves pretty things, especially if you made them for her.

And the Gitz I know is going to run so fast toward her dad when she finally gets to heaven that she'll probably knock him right over.

And then she'll laugh so hard that she'll snort (oh yes, she will), which will make her laugh even harder. And unlike here, her lungs will allow her to do that and there will be no sharp pains coursing through her body causing her to cry out in pain during that laugh.

And if letting her go here is what needs to happen for her to laugh without pain?

That's worth saying goodbye to the Gitz I know.

Thursday, September 1, 2011

Sexism, solved.*

Women are just as smart as men.

I know this. And the rest of the world will to.

All we have to do...

...are you ready for this?

Show them.

Be good at our jobs.

Like, really good at them.

Be smart and confident and ready for anything. Work hard. Learn all the time. Don't create drama. Don't use your emotions as a weapon.

And also? Teach your daughters the same thing.

Don't make a big deal out of the fact that you're a woman, and they probably won't either.

And if they do, find somewhere else to work.

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*Yes, I realize this doesn't ACTUALLY solve all sexist issues. Yes, I realize some things still need to be fought for when it comes to civil rights of all kinds. But it's something we can do, as women, to combat it. You don't have to care that they're sexist. You just have to prove that you're just as good, if not better. Your work will speak for itself.